Monday, June 10, 2013

What do you say...when you are not ok?

"How are you doing with everything?"
"How is the job search going?"
"Have you found anything yet?"
"How are you doing financially?"
"Are you ok?"

I am ok...I guess

Welcome to the opening lines of just about every conversation I am having lately. I know that people ask out of genuine concern and care but I am running out of energy to give them the pleasant and hopeful responses I have memorized by now. As a Christian, I feel like I need to have that pleasant response all the time. I have the hope of Jesus...I really do but it doesn't mean I can always feel it. I have moments of absolute certainty that God has amazing things ahead for me but I also have moments of despair and doubt. I am human and my mind is a constant battle field between the best and worst case scenarios.

Honesty, is something that I think is really lacking in the Church. I don't want to be the one to break the image of happy and hopeful Christians but we struggle too. Somewhere I got this idea that once I was in a close relationship with God...I wouldn't struggle this much but I have found the opposite to be true. No one said it would be harder.

The truth is...that I am not ok but our definitions of "ok" may differ. I have an incredible support system full of amazing friends and family including my husband who is the best gift from God. I see God's love for me and support during this time but it is still hard. I know I will be ok, but I am not ok right now. There is the truth...the truth that you don't really want to hear when you ask how I am doing. I think it is important to know that even with a firm faith in Christ...I am still having a tough time. I still have doubts and anxiety about my future. I still have times when I am not ok.

But there is good news...God doesn't change even when I do. His faithfulness doesn't change even when I am consumed with doubt. His love for me doesn't decrease even when I am angry about where He has me waiting. I don't know about you...but that is the definition of hope. Hope is the difference between me and a non-believer who has been unemployed for 5 months. I have hope...that God will fulfill his promises and hope that His love is never ending and never changing.

When I look at it that way....then I guess I really am ok. When I focus on all of that...my search for a job and all of the other issues in life seems "Strangely Dim."

This song is really an anthem for my life right now. "Strangely Dim" by Francesca Battistelli

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